Chapter 170 It's Like I Met You

   The two of them lay down on the grass and got up and continued on their way.

   It was almost noon, but there was no place to eat along the way.

  Ning Youguang was worried when Mochizuki was hungry, and handed him a torn bag of bread, "Eat some bread to cushion your stomach first."

   Mochizuki took her hand and took a big bite.

  Ning Youguang gave him another bottle of water, "Traveling in the Great Northwest is like this, you have to feel its most beautiful side, but also accept its desolation."

   Mochizuki took a sip from the bottle and said, "I know."

  …

   After driving for a while, the two finally saw a small wooden house on the side of the road. There were a few words written in Tibetan and Chinese on the small wooden house. It was a restaurant.

  The two parked the car on the side of the road, ready to have a feast here.

   They stepped on the gravel road at the door, entered the shop, and entered the dining room.

   There were other guests in the restaurant, and the table was served with stewed mutton, roasted mutton, and a few plates of vegetables.

   "Please take a seat, please take a seat!" The owner of the shop spoke Chinese, and he was very busy while greeting.

   Behind him stood an elderly woman, apparently the wife of the shopkeeper.

   There was also a girl of about fifteen years old in the house.

When    was seated, Ning Youguang accidentally touched his spoon with his arm.

   "Dang" and the spoon fell to the ground.

   The shop owner glared at his wife, and the woman turned to blame the girl standing beside her.

  The girl hurriedly ran into another room, took out a spoon, and handed it to Ning Youguang timidly.

   Shi Mochizuki and Ning Youguang looked at each other across the table.

   "Please slow down!" The owner handed a set of cutlery to Mochizuki.

  Ning Youguang and Shi Mochizuki have a meal while chatting about work, investment, teaching, case studies and so on.

   The owner has left the dining room, but his wife is still standing by.

When the woman and her daughter handed a plate of fruit to them, the girl's elbow accidentally knocked on Ning Youguang's cup, splashing water all over the table.

   Her mother rushed over angrily, scolded her daughter loudly in Tibetan, and drove her away.

   "I'm sorry, I'm sorry!" The woman apologized and wiped the water off the table, "This girl is really clumsy."

The    girl was on fire, she grabbed the remaining fruit and threw it at her mother, missing it.

  Fruits and china shards flew all over the table.

  The shop owner came in in time and shouted so much that the girl ran away in fright.

   "I'm sorry!" The owner rushed to the table for two.

   "It's okay, don't be so fierce to your daughter!" Ning Youguang said with a smile.

   Mochizuki stood up to pay the bill, and they left quickly.

  …

  Ning Youguang kept silent.

   When she walked out of the store and walked to the car on the side of the road, she said, "Did you see that girl?"

   Mochizuki looked at her.

"She is a classic victim of psychological violence. Human desires to control other people, if left unchecked, will have such consequences. The shopkeeper and his wife are totally over the girl. Did you notice that, Is this girl hunched over and nervous?"

   "I noticed!" Shi Mochizuki said with a frown, "Looks like she's had enough."

"Yes! Her parents never let her go. From her point of view, she has no choice but to fight back violently. Only then can she gain some control over herself. Traumatized, she will grow up feeling that she has to use the same drastic means to gain control and dominate others. This personality trait will become ingrained and make her the same violent person as her parents, especially When dealing with vulnerable people, especially children."

After resting for a while, Ning Youguang continued: "In fact, we can conclude that her parents suffered the same trauma when they were young. Now they must dominate their daughters, because their parents dominated them back then, and psychological violence is like this. passed down from generation to generation.”

   [In human culture, this kind of psychological violence occurs all the time, and the perpetrators are often consciously well-intentioned. ]

   "When two people are arguing, they are insisting that their view of something is right and correct. Both sides want to win the other, overwhelm the other, try to destroy the other's self-confidence, and even openly confront each other."

Mochizuki looked up at the sky   , "I understand." His voice was low and deep.

   "What do you understand?" Ning Youguang asked.

"If we systematically observe the magnetic field movement between people, we will understand what human beings gain when they compete, criticize and hurt each other. That is, once we control someone, we can receive energy from him. , we deprive others of things and enrich ourselves, and this is the real motive of our behavior." It was also the motive of Liu Susu's behavior when he controlled him in the past.

  The child is really a very savvy person.

Ning Youguang sighed secretly, "Yes, human beings have a tendency to control and dominate others, although most of the time most do not realize this, but when a person tries to control another person, he is plundering that person. energy to feel fulfilled.”

"So during the meal just now, the couple kept plundering the girl's energy?" Shi Mochizuki said after thinking, "The girl was pushed to the brink of collapse by them. When they were arguing, I felt that the atmosphere between them was amazing. , they are pulling each other, as if they can only stop by subduing each other."

Ning Youguang fell into deep thought, "Ordinary people haven't noticed this yet. Many people only know that they feel weak, and they must be humbled to make themselves feel better. What they don't realize is that for their own sake, In a better mood, they made people pay dearly. They stole energy from other people, and most people spend their entire lives searching and capturing other people's energy, which also means that they have always been in a negative energy area."

Shi Wangyue looked at Ning Youguang, her eyes flashing with a faint brilliance, "But there are occasional exceptions, we occasionally meet someone, and from the moment we know each other and meet, she will voluntarily send her energy to us. ."

  [It's like I met you. ]

  Outside the house, the sky was as crystal clear as crystal, and the sun was shining brightly on a mountain peak.

  Ning Youguang was walking along the road, looking at the white clouds floating in the sky through her fingers, as well as the mountains in the distance, the sun fell on her brows and the tips of her hair, dyeing a beautiful melting light.

   Both of them walked very slowly, their faces calm, until they got into the car.

Shi Wangyue tried to summarize the meaning of what Ning Youguang said to him, "You are talking about how to deal with the relationship between people - how we should treat children, how to treat adults. You also talked about how to identify , How to break the control drama performed by others, and how to establish a new relationship with them?"

  Ning Youguang nodded slowly. 1314

   (end of this chapter)