Chapter 401 High-end Boyfriend

   "Investable sources in the primary market have become scarce, so we can only agree with them and break the original intention to enter the secondary market." Yun Zewu added with a frown.

   But the secondary market is cruel, with smiling enemies lying in wait everywhere waiting to tear them apart.

   They are hunters themselves, but they are also likely to be the prey of the prey.

  …

   Taking advantage of the end of the busy work, Mochizuki went on a business trip just in time.

  Ning Youguang responded to Gu Xi's invitation and came out for afternoon tea.

   In winter, the weather is fine.

   The two met at the Langyuan park next to SJS, where there is a coffee shop.

   is a cafe that Gu Xi has collected for a long time.

   "Thank you, I can finally check in at Langyuan Park and Jimu Cafe." Wearing a khaki cashmere coat, Gu Xi sat in the passenger seat of Ning Youguang's car, feeling extremely good.

   "I'll drag your blessing too, you can come out for afternoon tea." Ning Youguang smiled softly.

  In the afternoon, the slightly drunk sunlight fell on the two of them through the car window, and the people were warm.

   "Don't, this time we were able to make an appointment for afternoon tea. It's purely a blessing for procrastinating the school's business trip." Gu Yi expressed his respect and gratitude, "Ning Da writer is a very busy person. He has to work 18 hours a day, but it is too difficult to make an appointment."

   This year, she made an appointment with Ning Youguang countless times, but she never made an appointment.

   Every time she asks her out, her first question is, "Do you have anything important?"

   As a result, Gu Yan didn't dare to talk to her about anything important.

  Sometimes, when she has something to do, she wants to ask her out to meet for a meal or something.

  Ning Youguang was basically able to negotiate with her via video call, so he didn't meet her.

After    a few times, Gu Xi couldn't help but feel so depressed that he felt that he was really not motivated enough.

  Ning Youguang smiled, "My work this year has come to an end, and I have been relatively idle recently. Mochizuki is not on a business trip. If you ask me, I will also come out."

  Gu Xi glanced at her, "Is what you said true?"

  Ning Youguang nodded lightly.

   Gu Xi said immediately, "Then let's go to eat hot pot next weekend."

  Ning Youguang thought about it and said, "Not next week."

  Gu Xi immediately rolled his eyes, "Yes, yes, hum!"

  Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Mochizuki just came back next weekend. I have to help him clean up the house."

  Gu Yi sighed, "Mr. Ning is handsome, talented, gentle and virtuous. He is deeply loved by such a good woman. Xue Shen must be the man who saved the galaxy in his last life."

  Ning Youguang had a helpless look on his face, "How virtuous am I? They have been gone for more than a week. If I don't help him clean up here, how can he rest at night?"

   "Yo, a good house, can't sleep after more than a week?" Gu Xi scolded her.

  Ning Youguang shook his head, "Mochizuki is obsessed with cleanliness."

   Gu Yi clicked his tongue, "You are so kind to him."

  Ning Youguang smiled and said, "He is also very good to me."

  Gu Yi couldn't help but wonder, "I'm really curious, why the two of you have been together for so long, cohabited, long-distance love, and it's so good that it's like you just fell in love, it's hard to find in the world.

   "There is no long-distance relationship." Ning Youguang defended.

   "Oh, it's almost the same." Gu Xi waved his hand, "Anyway, there is no one around you, and you are in touch every day when you go abroad. This is no different from falling in love."

   "I don't." Ning Youguang blushed.

   Seeing this, Gu Yi smiled even more proudly, "You don't, can you guarantee that you won't have a scholar?"

   "..." Ning Youguang.

  Gu Yi laughed, "You can't guarantee it, so, is my words wrong?"

  Ning Youguang had nothing to say, so he simply concentrated on driving.

  Gu Xi was unrelenting, "I'll say that you have already entered the state of old husband and wife. In high school, I saw that people who study gods can handle it."

  …

   Soon, the two entered Jimu Coffee.

  This cafe is located in Langyuan, and it is a cafe with a simple industrial style design in gray and white tones.

   As soon as the two entered the door, they found that there were many fresh and elegant flowers embellished inside.

  The cafe was just full of customers.

   Fortunately, not long after they entered the door, the guests at the table by the window were ready to pay the bill and leave, giving them a seat with a good view.

   After the two of them sat down, they were even happier.

  Because this cafe is not only beautifully decorated, but the drinks and desserts on the menu also look exquisite.

  In winter, each of its drinks and desserts are matched with flowers.

   The responsibility of this appearance instantly made the two people's goodwill towards the store increased by tens of thousands of points.

   What girl doesn't like flowers? !

   Not to mention in this cold and depressing winter capital.

   Soon, Ning Youguang's "landscapes" and "solar terms" and the "three lanes" called by Gu Xi came up.

   This is three desserts.

  Ning Youguang's "Shanshui" is a small mountain-shaped snack made of dragon fruit puree, cream and chocolate.

   There is a bit of cuteness in Junsu.

   "Solar" is a matcha-flavored cake in the shape of two green bamboos. The two green cakes are decorated with green chocolate in the shape of bamboo leaves, making the overall look more fresh and elegant.

  Gu Xi's "Three Nong" is a pink-purple cake with three pink-purple daisies inserted on it, which looks delicate and beautiful.

   As soon as the three dim sums came up, the two of them took out their mobile phones and couldn't stop.

   In addition, at this time, the sunlight from the window is particularly bright, and the desserts that fall on the three-point dessert are even more eye-catching.

   Soon, the drinks ordered by the two arrived.

   What Gu Xi wanted was two cups of cold drinks with flowers. As expected, the appearance was high.

   A cup of pink, a cup of lemon yellow.

  The pink cold drink cup is filled with pink gypsophila, pink carnations, pink-purple daisies, and a few green leaves.

  The lemon yellow cold drink cup is filled with pink carnations, pink-purple daisies, pink gypsophila and green leaves.

   "Look so good, I can't bear to eat it." Gu Xi's eyes were full of surprise.

  Ning Youguang picked up the teapot that had just been put on and poured a cup of Darjeeling black tea for the two of them.

   "I love that we come back next time." Ning Youguang also liked these exquisite snacks and drinks.

   The owner of this cafe knows how to please girls.

   "Mmmm." Gu Yi nodded excitedly, "We'll come next week."

  Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Nothing special, it should be fine."

  Gu Xi didn't care, "I'll take it as your promise!"

   She said, "Let's not have lunch at that time, come over and have more snacks."

   Anyway, she just watched it, this cafe does not exceed 100 per capita, and the price is super high!

   "Okay." Ning Youguang nodded.

  …

   After the two of them finished their afternoon tea, Gu Xi proposed to find a place to have dinner.

   "I don't care, anyway, I don't want to go home now, and I don't want to be separated from you."

   "Okay, then let's go down the mountain to see where there is delicious food." Ning Youguang was just fine, so naturally he had nothing to refuse.

   Then, she suggested, "You bring the flower baskets home to make decorations."

   "Don't you claim that you can't live without flowers? Take it back." Gu Yi smiled and pushed.

   "I have a lot of flowers at home." Ning Youguang said, "Did you forget that my house has a small garden?"

   Gu Xi, who was caught off guard and ate a mouthful of lemons, no longer refused, and picked up the pink flower basket that the two of them placed on the table, "I just bought two new vases."

  …

   Dinner time.

  The two of them drove the car to search for a while on the street, and chose a Korean barbecue restaurant with a good reputation to enter.

  In the winter night, the smoke is burning.

  Eating grilled meat is indispensable with sake.

  Unfortunately, Ning Youguang is an alcoholic.

   Therefore, a bottle of sake ordered by Gu Xi can only be drunk by herself.

   Barbecue and wine, even if you are alone, you can drink very well.

   With salty roasted five-flowers, roasted fat beef, and roasted prawns, she took cup after cup without caring about her image or her alcohol intake.

   and Gu Xi are old classmates for many years, Ning Youguang is very clear that this guy has a problem that he likes to talk when he drinks, and it is not a problem.

   Sure enough, with a few glasses of sake to eat.

  The clip will open soon after Gu Yan——

   "Being with you will really make you happier."

   She said, "In front of you, I can be my complete self, I can talk, dance, sing, and eat whatever I want."

   "The pork belly is ready." She first picked up the public chopsticks and gave Ning Youguang a piece of the best roasted pork belly, and then another piece for herself, "We have different personalities, and we are both cute and lovely."

  Ning Youguang smiled and peeled a freshly grilled prawn for her, "Old friend, of course."

"There will always be ups and downs, triumphs, disappointments, joys, pains, hopes, and disappointments in a person's life. The most important thing is that we can all share these together." Gu Yi took a sip of sake from the plum blossom cup, "Because you know me, and I know you too."

   "With you, I don't have to worry about being laughed at, rumored or looked down upon. It's just that we, who are real and imperfect, tolerate each other, understand each other, support and cheer each other up."

   After thinking about it, she corrected it again, "I am the only one who is not perfect, you are perfect."

   "I'm not perfect either." Ning Youguang gently filled her glass.

   "What the fairy said is right." Gu Yixiao raised his wine glass, "Respect our friendship will last forever."

  Ning Youguang picked up his teacup, "Respect our friendship will last forever."

  Gu Xi was moved by talking, "You know, it's because of having a friend like you around me that I feel that I can be single or not to have a lover. I feel good when I have you."

   There were tears in her eyes, "When I'm sad now, the person I want to contact most may not be a man, but it can't be a friend."

"Look, eat and drink together like we are now, eat and drink well, wake up the next day and see the sunshine outside the window, it's another day full of vitality, how good? Food, wine and friends can heal any sadness, It can make me forget the momentary unhappiness."

  Ning Youguang was infected by Gu Xi's emotions, and he began to nostalgic, "How fast, we have known each other for more than ten years."

   "Yes, we have been friends for more than ten years." Gu Xi's eyes widened slightly.

Then, she rolled up her sleeves, picked up chopsticks and put chopsticks of beef for herself and Ning Youguang from the pot, "For more than ten years, the little fairy has become a fairy, and I have also changed from classmate Gu to president Gu. ."

   "Respect Mr. Gu." Ning Youguang held up the teacup, his face full of joy.

   This year, she devoted herself to cultivating and exerting herself, and became the most popular best-selling author in China this year.

  Gu Xi also worked hard to get himself a promotion.

  She has changed from an ordinary employee of a large company to a management who has gradually emerged in the industry.

   "Thank you, Professor Ning." Gu Yi smiled brightly with a bit of pure innocence, "However, what doesn't change is that we have always been there, we can talk casually, and we are not afraid of being treated as a neuropathy by the other party..."

  Ning smiled softly, "You're right."

  Gu Xi hiccups—"It doesn't matter if it's considered a neuropathy, anyway, my good friend is a doctor, and there are ways to cure me, hahahahaha."

   Through the hazy heat, the smile on Ning Youguang's face deepened.

As Gu Xi drank more and more, her words became more and more eloquent, "I am especially grateful that you have always encouraged me from Jincheng to Beijing, and made me believe that I can do it. No matter what happens in the future, even if I don't have a boyfriend at the moment, I also feel very happy.”

  When girls and girls are together, especially when one of them is single, the topic inevitably turns to men.

   "I met a boy recently, please help me analyze, is he interested in me?" Gu Xi put down his chopsticks.

   "Okay." Ning Youguang was also interested.

"That's right, we met on a business project. The first time we met, he asked me what perfume I was using. After I answered, he nodded and smiled and said, it smells good." Gu Xi organized a little After a moment of language, he said, "Wait until the second time, I changed to a stronger fragrance, and he didn't ask any more. I thought he was interested in my fragrance before, but after the second time, I felt He doesn't seem to be."

  Ning nodded lightly, "Anything else?"

"Also, he likes to compliment me very much, and he looks into my eyes when he talks to me." Gu Xi said, "Once he looked into my eyes and said 'your eyes are so beautiful', I said 'yes' ?', he nodded again and didn't speak, so that I don't even know what he meant by this question."

  Ning Youguang asked, "Besides, when he gets along with you, does he pat you on the shoulder, back, or elbow you from time to time to draw in the distance between the two of you?"

   Gu Yi said with a look of surprise, "How do you know?!"

  Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Congratulations, you have met a master girl!"

   "Huh?!" Gu Yi was very surprised, "How do you say?"

"From the first meeting to ask about your perfume, to the physical contact with you, it all means that he wants to establish a personal connection with you, and he is involuntarily launching a flirting offensive against you, trying to win your favor. This is a master. , you be careful."

  Gu Yi froze, "Fortunately I told you, otherwise I might have been provoked."

   After all, the other party is not bad, and looks personable.

   "The fact that a master girl does these things doesn't mean that he likes you at all, it's just to win the favor of the opposite sex."

  Ning Youguang said seriously, "Remember! When you meet such a man, don't fall in love too quickly because of his tricks. You will definitely lose more than you gain!"

She cautiously reminded Gu Yan, "The vast majority of men who do this are scumbags, and they are definitely not qualified lovers. From the first time he talked to you, he has no interest in what perfume you use at all. , asking you is just a way to strike up a conversation! A simple girl like you who is not deep in the world is the easiest to be provoked, you know?"

  Gu Xi was so frightened that he quickly took out his phone, "I'll block him now!"

  …

   Deliver the drunk Gu Xiping home.

   When Ning Youguang returned to UCAS, it was already ten o'clock at night.

   And it was just morning in America.

   When she finished taking a bath and was lying on the bed looking at her phone, she realized that Shi Mochizuki had sent her several messages in a row asking if she didn't get WeChat when she went to school.

   [Just took a shower. ]

   Then, she sent him the photos taken during the afternoon tea time.

   [This sunshine is really nice. ] The other party returns in seconds.

   [Yes, the weather is fine today. ]

  Ning Youguang said, [their food is nice and delicious, next time we go together. ]

   Shi Mochizuki smiled back, [Thank you, Teacher Ning. ]

  Ning Youguang replied with a cute emoji, and then said——

   [I also have to thank Mr. Shi for his hard work, allowing me to enjoy such a wonderful afternoon tea with peace of mind. ]

   Far away from a conference table in Boston.

  Everyone saw the big guy who had been expressionless all of a sudden and smiled.

  ［WeChat transfer 131400］

  Ning Youguang readily accepted the big red envelope sent by Mochizuki, and replied:

   [Gu Xi also told me today that high-end boyfriends often appear in the form of ATMs. ]

  …

   On the second day, it was another sunny day.

  Ning Youguang got up early in the morning and made breakfast for himself, avocado, shrimp and baguette.

   Made four pieces in total. She tasted one piece and found it to be very delicious, so she took a picture and sent it to Shi Mochizuki.

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   [This avocado prawn with baguette is so delicious! What you did before, I tried it once today and found it to be pretty good. ]

   Mochizuki returned in seconds after having dinner——

  [It sells well! ]

   [I will make it for you next time. ] Ning Youguang is very happy that he can reproduce the delicious taste of children at once.

[it is good. ]

  In the garden of an internationally renowned five-star hotel in Boston.

   When Mochizuki was walking, he stopped by the garden path and played with his mobile phone.

   Yun Zewu could only wait with his hands wrapped around his chest and leaning against the stone on the side with a speechless face.

  Ning Youguang finished his breakfast and opened the door to the backyard. He saw the sun shine on the plants in the yard, casting a layer of shining light on the plants in the morning.

   She felt that all this was beautiful in front of her, and couldn't wait to take a picture and send it to Shi Mochizuki.

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  [A plant that has not been exposed to the sun in winter seems to be desperately performing photosynthesis and trying to grow. ]

When    received these WeChat messages, Shi Mochizuki just returned to the hotel room.

   Across the screen, he could feel his sister's happiness, and the corners of his mouth raised unconsciously:

  [Many times, nature can heal everything, sunlight, plants and water, how small human beings are in front of nature. ]

  Ning Youguang quickly replied:

   [Our life spans hundreds of millions of years and is just as innumerable as dust. Those trivial things in the world that torment us are actually nothing as long as we are still alive. ]

   "Do you take a bath or do I take a bath?" Yun Zewu came out of the room, and when he saw Mochizuki, he was sitting on the sofa and playing with his mobile phone, quite speechless.

   "You wash." Mochizuki didn't lift his head when he was addicted to playing with his phone.

  Yun Zewu shook his head and instructed, "I'm taking a shower soon, you'd better go get ready, we're going out again in half an hour."

  …

   is the fourth day of Mochizuki's business trip.

  Ning Youguang hosts a special guest in her office—a reader of her new book.

  A pretty girl with a shapely figure in a famous brand.

   The girl burst into tears as soon as she saw Ning Youguang, "Mr. Ning, can I give you a hug?"

  Ning Youguang smiled and hugged the girl gently, "Nice to meet you."

   "Thank you, Teacher Ning." There was a cry in the girl's voice, "Thank you for accepting my consultation."

  Ning Youguang guided the girl to sit down on the chair, "I also want to thank you for your liking and trust."

  The girl sat down on the chair and took the warm water from Ning Youguang, "Mr. Ning is even more beautiful than what you see in the video."

   She looked at Ning Youguang's almond eyes, full of surprises.

   "Thank you, you are beautiful too." Ning Youguang sat down on the chair opposite her.

   "My beauty is made up of makeup." The girl bowed her head embarrassedly, "I don't even dare to see people without makeup."

  Ning smiled softly when there was light.

   She stopped talking.

   She is waiting for the girl to reveal the true purpose of her visit.

  The girl also knew that it was not easy for her to meet Teacher Ning.

   After taking a few sips of water, she decided not to waste her time, and quickly opened up her desire to talk——

"...I have been dissatisfied with myself since I was a child. I always thought that with such a personality, it was impossible for me to live a good life. It was impossible for me to have a very harmonious family, and it was impossible for me to have a husband who loved me very much. Maybe I will marry a rich man. I always fantasize that I can make a lot of money, but every time I earn a little more, I can't help spending it, and then I fall into the predicament of no money.

  I don’t dare to go out without makeup, I dare not tell others about my family situation, I dare not let others know that my family was poor since I was a child, my parents are farmers, and I don’t know a few big characters.

I don't even dare to post my parents' appearance in the circle of friends. I think they have dark faces and sloppy looks to be seen by others. Others can immediately see from their vulgar appearance and rough appearance that my family is poor, and they will I look down on me even more, and feel that I am not good enough.

  Sometimes, I still hate myself very much, I feel that I am fat, short, my skin is not white enough, my face is not good-looking enough, and my education is not high enough.

  When I was in high school, I always imagined that I could lose weight successfully in college. If I lose 80 pounds, I will become very beautiful.

   But when I got to college, I found that I was not as good as when I was in high school.

  When I was in high school, my weight was 98. In my freshman year, my weight rose to 108.

   I used to think I was a little good-looking before in college.

   When I went to college, I found that there were many, many more beautiful girls around me. They all had good families. They had a lot of pocket money every month. They were very good at dressing up and putting on makeup.

   I didn't turn out as bright as I expected.

   I am still very ordinary, very ordinary.

   Not many boys like me, and my grades are not the best.

   I found that I would never be the brightest in the crowd.

   So, in college, I worked crazy part-time jobs and worked hard to make money.

  When I graduated from college, I started plastic surgery to lose weight, and then I came to Beijing from my hometown. "

   Since she read Ning Youguang's new book "Love You is to Love Yourself", she has developed a sense of trust in Ning Youguang.

"After I came to the capital, I told others that my parents were businessmen, and our family's economic conditions were very good. I was pampered since I was a child. My parents loved me very much, and my relatives loved me very much. Bai Fumei, and then followed them to meet more and more rich people.

   I thought this way I could completely let go of my past.

  I thought that no one here knew me, and no one knew that I was lying, and no one knew that I had plastic surgery, that I was vain, and that no one knew that I was a native girl from the countryside.

  This way... all my faults will not be discovered.

   As a result, several years have passed.

  I found that I was wrong, no matter how many rich people I met and how many friends I made with good families, I still have a deep sense of inferiority in my heart.

   I hate myself, and I am more and more dissatisfied with myself. "

   As the girl spoke, the expression on her face gradually changed, "There are good boys chasing me, so I only dare to make friends with them, not to fall in love with them."

   "What are you afraid of?" Ning Youguang asked gently.

"I am afraid that after falling in love, my original family and my original appearance will be known to them. At that time, my senior circle of friends will laugh at me, and my boyfriend and their family will not accept me." Girl face Pain appeared, "I actually want to marry a boy from a better family, but I deeply know that deep down in my heart I don't believe that I can marry a rich man. So, even if I work now and then No matter how hard I try, I still only dare to make friends with them, but I dare not fall in love with them."

The girl said, "I was living such a contradictory and complicated life every day, until, I saw your new book, and you said this in the book - your so-called 'flaws', those qualities in you that you don't like , is actually your most valuable asset, but the degree of expression is a little too strong.

  This is like adding salt to a dish. If you put too much salt, it will be unpalatable. If you can put just the right amount of salt, the dish will become especially delicious.

  A trait, as long as you use it in the right place and just right, you and everyone around you will realize that your 'weakness' is actually your strength.

   They can work for you, not be a stumbling block for you.

   The only thing you need to do is to express these qualities to the right degree at the right time, in the right way, without overdoing it. "

"When I suddenly read this text, my back was numb and I wanted to cry uncontrollably." Hot tears flowed from the girl's beautiful eyes, "In the past, I never thought about this issue. But when I read this text , I instinctively feel that every word you say is right. What I call bragging is actually an overexpression of self-confidence; what I call impetuous is actually the result of excessive positive thinking; as for what I call being pushy, It's actually the result of my overexpression of leadership, persuasion, and expressiveness - things that don't have any problems in themselves. I realize that my so-called 'weaknesses' are actually my strengths that people often praise me for. No wonder I always There's no way to completely change them!"

  The girl cried, cried and laughed.

   She quickly dug out Ning Youguang's new book "Loving You Is Loving Yourself" from her bag——

"Fortunately, Teacher Ning, you wrote this book. Otherwise, I don't know how many detours I would have to take, and I would spend less life to see my own problems, so I would fall into my own imperfect quagmire and couldn't extricate myself." Ning Youguang looked in front of him again. The girl who cried and laughed softly said, "The reason why we strive to grow is often because the weight of life makes us miserable and makes us breathless.

  Things that, although they belong to us, we try to hide, deny, and refuse to admit, all belong to the realm of shadows.

   They are hidden deep in our consciousness, and it is difficult for others or ourselves to be directly aware of their existence.

  However, they always suggest to us that we are flawed, annoying, and worthless.

  Because of the influence of these hints, we always feel that there is something dirty in our hearts, so we are always reluctant to examine our hearts, for fear that the dirtyness will be exposed in broad daylight.

   We fear ourselves, the thoughts and feelings that have been repressed by our subjective consciousness.

  This fear often exists in the subconscious, we cannot directly feel it, but we are affected by it. In order to cover up the shadow in our hearts, we can only deceive others, but also deceive ourselves.

   also makes them the side that destroys our relationships, stifles our spirits, and prevents us from realizing our dreams—what psychologist Jung called the dark side of human nature. "

  The girl nodded while crying, "Mr. Ning, I often feel like a big liar who denies that I'm hiding."

"Jung asked everyone a question 'Do you want to be a good person or a complete person?'" Ning Youguang called the girl's name gently, "Xiao Shi, when you think you are a big liar , Have you ever thought that each of us is imperfect, and each of us has a dark side that we do not want to touch, relatives and friends are unwilling to accept it, and even we can't face it. Therefore, many people do their best at all costs. Pretend to be someone that everyone likes and make yourself very tired."

"I know that many people are not perfect, and I don't want to be perfect." The girl called Xiao Shi shook her head blankly, "I just want to be a better person, I always thought that only myself could become better. Well, you deserve to be loved. So, I made up my mind to make myself better, even if I lied."

Xiaoshi continued to confess to Ning Youguang, "I always say to people, 'Be patient, don't be in a hurry.', 'Be tasteful and elegant.', 'Be refined and know how to love yourself', 'Have a healthy diet, don't eat rubbish' Food.' But the more refined and elegant I was in front of people, the more hypocritical I felt behind them."

"Because I love spicy food, potato chips and knife-cut noodles, and yogurt and milk tea. I'm very rough at home. I don't wash my face, I don't make up on holidays, I don't take care of my face, and I wear clothes casually, casually at work. Doing something and wanting to be rewarded is not a big pattern, but outside I have to maintain my decency and refinement at all times, and these things can’t be shown.”

   She burst into tears, "Gradually, I spent a lot of energy to cover up my shortcomings, so I despised those around me who casually exposed the dark side, and I became more and more cynical.

I feel that everyone in this world is hypocritical. Whenever I encounter a problem, I think it is because of injustice, because I was born into a poor family, I have no good luck, I have lived in the countryside since I was a child, I have no knowledge, and I went wrong. I studied at the same school and chose a major that I am not good at.

   My pain is caused by these external forces.

  If my parents were rich, Kochi, high society people.

  If my family is rich, I can get a good personal training and play wherever I want, I will definitely live a thousand times better than I am now.

   I'm always fantasizing about 'what if', 'if this', 'if that', what can I do...

   But the reality is that I don’t get better just because I think this way, it makes myself more selfish, ugly, bitter, irritable, and more resentful to my parents.

   No matter how hard I try, I can't be what I want to be.

   However, I can’t really blame my parents, because even though they are poor, they worked hard to earn money and sent me to university, and gave me the best of everything.

   They live very frugally and frugally, they are reluctant to eat and wear, but they are never reluctant to me.

   So I became more and more divided and contradictory, I didn’t want to go back to my hometown, and I didn’t want to face my parents.

   I don't want to see them at all except to send them money.

   At first, I thought it was okay.

   But after a little longer, I feel that my life is getting more and more painful, and I haven't been really happy for a long time. "Speaking of this, Xiao Shi's mood completely collapsed.

  Ning Youguang got up and took the girl who was constantly blaming herself into his arms.

"Modern society often gives people an illusion that only perfect people can be happy. Many people have suffered heavy losses in the process of pursuing perfection, but it is always difficult to achieve what they want. Instead, they will make their body, spirit and soul bear the burden. "Pressure." She comforted Xiaoshi, "In fact, behind each of our shortcomings, there is a hidden advantage, and each dark side corresponds to a gift of life... The dark side is a part of our life, and each of us is a unity of contradictions. , is the result of the reconciliation of various positive and negative qualities, and no aspect can be called complete without any aspect."

  Xiao Shi got up from Ning Youguang's arms, "As time goes by, I have become accustomed to the mask I wear. I don't know how to live after taking off the mask."

Ning Youguang's clear eyes fell on Xiao Shi's face, "You know it very well. Blindfold your eyes, block your ears, refuse to see your true self, and refuse to listen to your inner voice. Suppressing the dark side of your heart in this way will not help you. Brings good results, doesn't it?"

  Xiao Shi was speechless, but his eyes slightly dodged.

"You forgot that there is a real self under the mask. Although you have experienced many failures in life, you still deliberately suppress your inner hints." Ning Youguang said, "But you are also very clear that your own characteristics will not Disappearing because of your denial will only hide in your subconscious, quietly affecting your sense of identity with yourself.”

  Xiao Shi lowered his head in embarrassment and clenched his hands.

   Tears also dripped onto the book in his hand.

   She panicked and wiped away the tears on the book with her hands, but found that the imprint of the tears falling on the book could not be wiped away.

   She cried even harder.

"Many people around us see the dark side of themselves, and the first reaction is the same as yours, wanting to escape, to get rid of these characteristics. In order to suppress them, everyone spends a lot of energy, and the end result is often when they relax a little, it It will emerge from our subconscious and affect us." Ning Youguang watched her movements quietly, "They all thought that as long as they could disguise, those around them who they wanted to hide would not be able to see it. But when When they sincerely ask friends and people around them, they will find that the dark side they try to hide can be seen by others at any time."

  Xiao Shi raised his head and looked at Ning Youguang seriously, his face paled slightly.

Ning Youguang's voice was gentle, "Many people think that 'things gifted by God must be perfect.' In fact, the situation is often the opposite. It is very likely that those things that look like thorny cacti to you, peel off the skin and wrap the inside. The fruit is delicious and sweet.

   Jung said, 'It is useless to fantasize about the light, the only way out is to recognize the shadows. ’

  In order to achieve the state of unity between man and nature, we must have a complete self, and let the light and dark sides of ourselves live in harmony. In this day and age, gold is always hidden in the trash. "

“To chase the light, we must embrace the darkness. Only by confronting the inner shadow can we experience the full sense of positivity and negativity, light and darkness. It is enslaved." Ning Youguang's eyes on Xiaoshi were full of encouragement, "Although the dark side of our hearts is negative, it can play a positive role, providing us with guidance and making our existence complete. Only By acknowledging and accepting our whole selves, we have freedom of choice."

Xiaoshi said painfully, "Mr. Ning, I have tried many methods before, including hypnotherapy, acupuncture, rebirth experience, extreme sports, sitting meditation, meditation... But none of these are effective, and I can't eliminate them no matter what. That hatred in my heart."

"Jung once said that instead of being a good person, he would rather be a complete person. While trying to be a 'good person' and trying to be recognized by others, we will lose our true self, which is even more terrifying." Ning Youguang said, "As we grow up, people around us convince us that we have traits that can be distinguished by 'good' and 'bad', with 'good' traits to be promoted and 'bad' traits to be corrected or glossed over. This way of thinking is gradually established from the moment we learn to distinguish between 'self' and 'other'. However, as we continue to grow older, we will gradually realize that the world is a unified whole, we and others Our minds are connected. From this perspective, we can't help but ask, are 'good' and 'bad' really objective criteria? Should we really get rid of those 'bad' qualities in ourselves? But no What is good without being bad? What is love without hate? How is courage without fear?

  The nature of life contains countless possibilities. Once we start to re-examine the relationship between our inner world and the material world around us, we will find that many of the concepts we have been taught since childhood are paradoxes.

   It is contradictory in itself and cannot stand scrutiny at all.

  Since this is the case, why do we deny ourselves and hurt ourselves because of the labels that were instilled in our childhood that were not correct?

  On the contrary, when we admit and accept ourselves, the authenticity of everything around us can be revealed, and we can live more possibilities in life. Because, our constant process of acknowledging and accepting ourselves is the process of constantly breaking our own restrictive concepts. "

   "Teacher Ning, can you help me see my dark face?" Xiaoshi asked.

"It's not enough just to see the darkness of oneself in the face of a person's own growth. You also have to understand what the dark side brings to our growth, so as to look at it from an inclusive perspective." Ning Youguang said, "If you're open to growth and change, I'll teach you to acknowledge and accept and embrace the shadows in your heart, so that you can reach your potential, help you open up, and radically change yourself, your perception of others, and your perception of the world."

   "I am willing to grow and change, I am willing." Xiaoshi cried and said, "Can you please help me? I really don't want to deceive myself and live like this anymore."

  Ning Youguang said, "Are you willing to accept hypnosis?"

   "Yes." Xiao Shi thought about it for a while before making a decision, "Mr. Ning, do you want to hypnotize me? When?"

   "Now." Ning Youguang got up.

   "Now?" Xiao Shi was surprised, "Don't we need to find a hotel or a place to lie down?"

"unnecessary."

   "Then how do you hypnotize me?"

   "I have this." Ning Youguang took out a thin necklace from the drawer of his desk.

   "Hypnosis with a necklace?" Xiao Shi couldn't understand Ning Youguang's actions at all.

   "Yes, please sit down." Ning Youguang stood in front of Xiaoshi.

   After Xiao Shi sat down on the chair carefully, she said slowly, "When you're ready, please follow my words and imagine..."

Her voice became softer and slower: "You can imagine that you walked into the elevator, pressed the button on the bottom floor, the elevator opened, you walked into the garden in your heart, admired the surrounding scenery, and then found a comfortable place Sit down, take a deep breath, ask yourself the following questions, and wait quietly for the answer from the depths of your heart..."

   "Okay..." After the hypnosis is over.

  Ning Youguang resumed his normal speaking voice, "Xiao Shi, please open your eyes, carefully record the answers I will ask you next in a notebook, and then enter your mysterious garden and ask yourself the following questions."

   She handed Xiaoshi paper and pen.

  Xiao Shi reached out and took it obediently.

  Ning Youguang began to ask:

   "The first question, 'My life has become this way because of how I see myself?'" 1314

   The case-handling techniques in this chapter have been learned from the author of the book "Accepting Your Imperfect Self"

   I will share the original book with everyone here, and the little angel in need can buy it and watch it~

  

  

   (end of this chapter)