Chapter 491 491 Let the heart be more beautiful

   "Mom told me to leave it alone and leave it to her to deal with it."

   Xie Yizun is actually not worried about this kind of non-existent thing.

  Brother-in-law is his brother-in-law, this can't really be true.

   Another thing that bothered him—“I…”

   "What's wrong with you?" Ning Youguang asked patiently.

   Maybe it's because her gentle voice is like a summer evening wind, which can blow away the impetuousness in her heart, or maybe it's because of her support and respect for Xie Yizun since childhood.

  The teenager hesitated for a moment, and told her the doubts he had never told his mother in his heart, "I suspect that it was the people who trained with me who were harassing me."

   Nothing happened. He didn't take it seriously when he saw the strange looks from a few people in the bathroom in the morning, but when something happened, he really couldn't think about it.

   "How to say?" Ning Youguang asked.

"yesterday……"

   Xie Yizun carefully told Ning Youguang what happened in the training camp from yesterday to today.

"That's it." Ning Youguang pondered for a while, "Let's have someone check it out, it will be found out soon, if someone really hurts you for no reason, we will definitely make him pay the price, but we can't just rely on it. Conjecture and convict people, don't wrong people."

   "I think so." Xie Yizun also hoped to get a fair and objective answer.

   It takes a little while to wait for the answer.

   My younger brother's mood definitely didn't recover so quickly.

   Those who are unhappy will have no energy to train, not to mention that they will continue to compete the day after tomorrow.

Ning Youguang said slowly, "When a person faces accusations and slanders, his discomfort is also related to his mentality, because our concern for the outside world is like a cage, and it will bind us tightly. This involves When we interact with people, we need to know how to maintain a sense of boundaries.”

   "What is a sense of boundary?" Xie Yizun knew that his sister was guiding him and listened very carefully.

   "It's that when someone interacts with you, you can identify the place where you might say "no"." Ning Youguang said.

   "Sister, can you be more specific?"

"It's just that when you interact with people, don't think that you are friends with anyone you know. No, in fact, there are very few people who can become our friends in our lives. There are role positions around you. When you recognize their role positions around you, you know the boundaries with them. At the same time, according to their role positions, you can also clearly know their role by your side. and meaning."

"I think about it..." Xie Yizun thought seriously, "For example, my teacher is a teacher, and my relationship with him is about learning. For example, the people who compete with me are my companions and competitors. I only need to have an intersection with them on matters related to competition training, such as those in the company, I have a cooperative relationship with them, so I only need to talk about work, is that the distinction?"

"That's right, that's how to distinguish them." Ning Youguang smiled, "The area that must be intersected has been demarcated. If they inquire too much about other parts, you can say "no" to them! I know! ?"

   "Got it." Xie Yizun replied.

   "That's right." Ning Youguang said softly, "My brother is so simple and sincere, how has he ever played with those thoughtful people outside? Don't be fooled and don't even know."

   "I also think these people are so complicated." Xie Yizun felt that his three views were constantly being washed recently, and scratched his head in annoyance, "I really can't understand it."

"Of course you can't understand it. Those who have a lot of scheming and complex hearts like to come to your door to help you the most." Ning Youguang said, "It was a simple thing, but after their brain processing, everything can be changed. It's getting complicated, do you think it's because they have a lot of trouble? Originally, no one had anything to do with it, it was all a matter. They had to involve people. Once anything involved people, it would be troublesome, conflicts between people and people. It begins, and the attack begins."

"Yes, yes, yes." Xie Yizun was shocked. "Recently, a lot of people have told me about the people around me. I thought that these people only told me when I was a brother. Now I listen to your analysis. This is all digging a hole for me!"

   "Yes, they are just digging a hole for you." Ning Youguang said, "Where there are people, there are 'self-performance' and right and wrong, what is right and wrong? It's those things that have nothing to do with yourself."

   "I don't know." Xie Yizun was deeply shocked and puzzled, "What is the performance of self?"

"The performance of self is that some people like to put on the mask of self to perform in front of others. In layman's terms, it means that many people participate in the group to perform their self, not to learn at all, or how? Sample."

   "I don't understand." Xie Yizun felt that this question was too deep.

"It's because you don't understand, that's all I tell you. In the future, in any group, someone whispers to you other people's gossip, troubles, or their own affairs. Don't listen to it, because you are used to listening. Now, they will come to you when they have something. The problem is that these things are meaningless and garbage, you know? They don't really think of you as a friend to tell you, they are in Treat you as a trash can, and, do they like to tell you that I only tell you this, so you must keep it a secret?!"

   "Yes." Xie Yizun thought about it and said, "I have met several such people recently."

"Put it down, they've already told others." Ning Youguang said, "And you're used to treating them as their trash can. If they have something to do in the future, it's logical to think that you should be their trash can and listen to them. Those messy things, the problem is to talk about other people's affairs, the good is good, the bad will have conflicts sooner or later, when something goes wrong, they will be the first to push you, stupid and sweet with a sense of justice If someone goes out to block the gun, you will become a target between them, don’t you think?”

   "That's right, but I didn't have anything to do with me at all." Xie Yizun reacted, feeling goosebumps all over his body.

"It's none of your business, you will still be polluted by these **** things, and you have to spend time and effort to digest these rubbish." Ning Youguang said, "You're not a god, how could you possibly listen to their **** things? If you are disturbed, do you have the energy to play the piano, sing, or sleep well? You have to listen to what they have to say, and finally you are pushed out to block the gun? Are you stupid?!"

  Xie Yizun was said by Ning Youguang, his forehead was sweating suddenly.

   answered - he was the fool.

"Who are they to you? Are you their psychologist? Or their family? What obligations and benefits do they have for you to digest their psychological garbage? Isn't it? You have a lot of things that you can't digest, right? "

"right."

   He himself was hacked today! Two hot searches!

   There are also competitions, which are also stressful.

   Where do you have the energy to take care of other people's bullshit? !

"That's it, get it?! There are a lot of people who have a lot of thoughts and love to gossip. Let me tell you, one day you can't take it anymore, or you don't want to listen to them anymore when you're in a bad state. They will think blindly, and they will make up a bunch of new stories in their minds, thinking that all their troubles are caused by you not listening, and you are the culprit that makes them unhappy. Listen to this logic, Like what?

   "It's like a madman." Xie Yizun's stomach was full of anger and anger rose up.

"Yes, people who are unreasonable are insane." Ning Youguang said, "The end result of being insane is that whatever you do is wrong, and he will always have reasons to think that you are not good. You are full and have time to spare. , I have to play this neurotic game with him."

   "I'm afraid, I can't afford to play." If the two were chatting on WeChat now, Xie Yizun would definitely send his sister an emoticon package that was ugly and rejected three consecutive times to accurately express his mood at this moment.

"The hotbed of self-reliance is the environment, the group. When you don't join their group and listen to their stories, they will naturally have no way to act in front of you." Ning Youguang said, "In the future, others will find yours. If you can solve the problem, you can solve it. If you can't solve it, tell the other party that I can't solve it, or suggest them to see a psychiatrist. Otherwise, you will be involved, and the matter will be more complicated. Moreover, if you don't listen, the other party will have no audience and no mirror. , their ego can't continue to play, it will stop. If you want to listen, they will continue to play, there is no turning back, more challenging."

   "I see." Xie Yizun felt so tired, "Why are these people so crooked, so they can't do something serious?"

"It's because their minds are not on business that they are so crooked." Ning Youguang showed the skin of these bulls, ghosts and snakes to his younger brother layer by layer, "Don't try to be a savior, don't pity them, you know? Neither of us are. God, some people's three views are not right, and it is useless to help them no matter how kind you are, you will only put yourself in, and the world of adults is just to see through and not to say."

   "Huh?" Xie Yizun scratched his head, "Some people are really pitiful."

"It's really pitiful people, of course you can help." Ning Youguang said, "The problem is that some people just have a pitiful appearance, not really pitiful. When he comes to you for help, if you point out the problem to him, he will Say you hurt me, you don't point out his problems, he says you despise me, whatever you do is wrong, if you don't do it, you're wrong, and in the end you become the wrong itself. You know, you're with them , It's not about who is right and who is wrong, but learning, the game is coming, right? If you learn to recognize human nature, you can be yourself and not cause trouble for yourself."

   "Sister, fortunately you reminded me today." Xie Yizun felt that he was horrified now, "These people are really scarier than ghosts, I decided to stay away from them."

  Otherwise, he was really dug and buried by others, and he didn’t even know how many people and money he helped.

"It's to stay away from them." Ning Youguang knew that the eye drops for his brother were almost ready, so he softened his tone, "But it's your heart that wants to stay far away from them, and when it is necessary to meet, you should You still have to be polite to them when you are polite to them, do you know why?"

"why?"

   "The more polite I am to you, the less I want to have anything to do with you." Ning Youguang said softly.

   But when Xie Yizun listened, he felt that every word in this sentence was a knife.

   Having said that, Ning Youguang felt that the interpersonal relationship lesson for his silly brother today was almost the same.

So he smiled and said, "Other people's opinions and suggestions can't decide what kind of person you become, what you say and what you do can decide what kind of person you become and what kind of life you have. A beautiful next second It’s time to start, delete these unhappy things, and make good use of your time to do infinitely meaningful things.”

   "Okay." Xie Yizun's voice was calm and powerful, obviously listening to her words.

  Ning Youguang smiled and asked, "I sent you flowers, did you receive them?"

"Ah? You gave the flowers this afternoon? That beautiful bunch of lotus flowers." Xie Yizun thought of the flowers that he had thrown on the table indiscriminately and thrown into the trash when he was about to go back, his back was sweaty. several layers.

   "Yes, I know you've been under a lot of pressure in the game recently, so I just want to give you something good." Ning Youguang smiled, "Do you like it?"

   "I like it!" Xie Yizun felt fortunate that he didn't lose the flower, "I'm going to find a vase to keep it, and there is a lotus pod on it."

"The lotus pods can be eaten." Ning Youguang said with a smile, "The lotus and lotus pods I sent to you were bought by an old grandma on the roadside when I went to work in the morning. They were very fresh. The grandmother who sold the flowers said that her husband picked it from the pond contracted by her family early in the morning, and I tasted it when I bought it. The lotus pods are very fresh, and the lotus seeds are very sweet and delicious."

   "I'm going to eat now." Xie Yizun got up and rushed to the dormitory.

   "Eat more and put out the fire." Ning Youguang smiled, "When you are unhappy, just look at the beautiful scenery and flowers, let your heart be more beautiful, and don't think about unhappy things."

  ——“If a person’s heart is not full of flowers, it will be full of weeds.”

  …

   When Xie Yizun rushed back to the dormitory, he saw that the dormitory was very lively, everyone in the dormitory was there, and people from other dormitories also came to visit.

   Already know that a lot of it is not a thing.

   He didn't want to pay any more attention to them, and went straight to the flowers on the table after entering the door.

   However, when he walked to the table and saw the messy lotus flowers being pinched inside, he immediately turned dark, "Who among you touched my flowers?"

  The people in the dormitory who were chatting, looked at the flowers when they saw Xie Yizun coming, and after they were still very unhappy, they all looked at him in surprise——

   "Is there anything wrong with this flower? Wasn't it from a fan?"

   "Yeah, I heard you say to throw it in the trash before."

   "We all moved, thinking that you didn't want it. The lotus pods on it looked very fresh. It would be a pity to throw them away, so we took them off and ate them." 1314

   (end of this chapter)