Chapter 520 Because of me and growth

  It was a hard and happy time.

   "You have helped a lot of people." The other party said slowly after listening carefully.

   "Thanks to everyone's trust." Ning Youguang smiled.

   Today, her studio has grown from a single therapist to a professional psychotherapy institution with more than 40 therapists and counselors.

  The organization has more and more employees, and more and more people are helped.

   The other party asked again, "What does it feel like to be reborn?"

  Ning's clear and gentle gaze fell on his face, "I feel that the depleted part of my life has a subtle vitality."

   What kind of feeling that is, people who have never felt this way don't understand.

   However, that did not prevent him from continuing to explore.

   "Does the vitality have a specific direction?"

"There is only one kind of vitality. When you are seen, it will become a good vitality, such as enthusiasm, creativity, and love. When you are not seen, it will become a black vitality, and it will become hate, attack, anger and destruction." Ning Youguang Patiently explained, 'Black life force will inevitably produce damage and attack, some are internal attacks, some are external attacks, those with internal attacks will continue to attack themselves, and those with external attacks will have serious emotional problems , They show two extreme emotional states on a daily basis. Most of the time, they appear to be very peaceful and easy to talk, but at a certain point they become a powder keg of 'exploding at one point'. "

  So people who are out of control are usually inferior and arrogant.

  When they have emotions but cannot be relieved, and cannot digest themselves in their hearts, they will lose control in an instant and become destructive at all costs.

   "So the vitality you say refers to good vitality." The other party lowered his eyes slowly.

  Ning Youguang discovered that the big man's eyelashes were long and curled.

   He has very nice eyes.

"Yes."

   "You... don't think it's bad for people who can't control their emotions?" The other party hesitated and asked again.

"Emotions are neither good nor bad, whether they are positive or negative. Its value depends purely on how the person who generates the emotion uses it." Ning Youguang replied, "And emotions are emotions, and people are people. , to separate, we can't think that a person is not good just because he has negative emotions, this is unreasonable."

   "Do you still have emotions now?"

   "Of course there is." Ning Youguang chuckled, "I'm not a saint, how can I have no emotions? However, I have learned how to control my emotions, and my consciousness and brain will no longer be controlled by emotions."

   "So you can be so peaceful every time?"

   "How do you say it." Ning Youguang chuckled, "I have always been quite peaceful."

  Appearance Yes.

   But he didn't want to, the other party revealed the essence in a second.

   "I'm talking about the heart."

"Okay, you're right. I used to be deeply troubled by emotions, often uncontrollable self-doubt and regret, regretting that I did the wrong multiple-choice questions, said the wrong thing to people, went to the wrong place in school, and doubted myself. It's not that I make others unhappy again, that I haven't done well enough, or that I've caused trouble to the people around me, etc. I always feel dissatisfied with myself, and my emotions are very negative." Ning Youguang laughed dumbly, " Therefore, I am introverted, not good at socializing, and have few friends. Although I have made progress in my studies, I have no way to use the knowledge I have learned to resist the negative emotions that are bred in my heart. As a person, I have not grown up. , So, I like to soak in the library by myself, as Somerset Maugham said, 'Reading is a sanctuary that you carry with you.'"

   "But that doesn't solve your problem."

   Is the brain of a genius all so good?

Ning Youguang has a new understanding of the other party's sensitivity, "Yes, although books have provided me with many ways to teach me how to deal with and solve problems, they cannot solve my psychological problems from the source. ."

   "Then how did you transform?"

   "Learning." Ning Youguang said, "Learn how to self-heal and grow with excellent tutors. After learning, transformation will become a natural thing."

   This is an excellent opportunity to open the door of the other party's heart. Ning Youguang is making her five senses highly sensitive, but she can't let the other party see that she is testing him.

   Therefore, we can only use self-dissection to let the other party see another possibility of black lives.

After thinking about it for a while, she added, "Actually at the beginning, I didn't realize that reading books alone could not solve my problems, and I was secretly proud of myself for a while and felt that the pains I had been 'passed', but at that time I didn't I know, it was because I was a student at the time, with simple relationships and far away from my family. The so-called 'past' is all self-deception. Those wounds that have not been healed are still hidden in my own consciousness, affecting my entire life by affecting my perception of the present and expectations for the future. After that, I realized that the only way to truly get out of this predicament is, as a mentor I know said, that I can only face up to my fragility and my dark side, find my inner strength in pain, and get out of my predicament. Just grow up.”

   "Why keep revisiting old scars?"

   The other party's cold voice hides anxiety and anger.

  Ning Youguang answered with certainty and calmness.

   "Because of me and my growth, I will die until I die."

   The person in the wheelchair fell silent again.

   After a long while, he moved his fingers slowly, "Can I have a cigarette?"

   "Of course." Ning Youguang nodded, then she turned to look around, and finally fixed her eyes on the tightly drawn curtains, "However, can I open the window if I want?"

   The other party hesitated and nodded.

  Ning Youguang got up and went to the window.

   But she didn't want to, she just wanted to reach out to open the curtains, but found that the thick black curtains in front of her were slowly moving to the sides.

   [Whole house smart home, did you say it earlier? ! ]

  Ning Youguang was speechless for a moment, but he was quickly healed by the beautiful sunset and sunset outside the window.

   As the thick curtains were opened in front of him, the warm yellow sky light outside slowly spread into the room.

   Brilliant and fascinating.

   "Today's sunset is so beautiful." She stood in front of the window, looking at the sky outside the window intoxicated.

   The current season is the beginning of autumn.

   But after she came to Beijing, she found that the weather here was good, and there was no sign of the passing of summer.

   She was dazzled by the halo that shrouded her. 1314

   The explanation of vitality comes from psychologist Wu Zhihong

  

  

   (end of this chapter)