Chapter 1209 1211 [Digging a pit]

  Hearing what Xiang Nan said, Nan Li and Xia Junshan became interested.

   "Brother, tell me, how should we cultivate children's self-control?" Xia Junshan hurriedly asked for advice.

"Children's nature is to be lively and active. No matter how honest a child is, he can't help but move his hands and feet when he sees something he is interested in. This is determined by hormones, and it does not depend on human will." Xiang Nan smiled. road,

  “So in order to cultivate children’s self-control, it is difficult for them to do it alone. At this time, parents must take responsibility and set clear goals for them. When and what to do, they must be planned.

  If you fail to reach the goal, you will be punished, and if you reach the goal, you will be rewarded. Only by persevering in this way can children's self-control be cultivated. Just like washing your face, brushing your teeth, and washing your feet, it was taught over and over again at the beginning. Later, if you don't let her wash it, she won't agree. "

   "Well, it makes sense." Nan Li and Xia Junshan glanced at each other, and they both felt that Xiang Nan was right.

  It’s like Chaochao, who didn’t like bathing very much when he was a child. Every time he bathed him, it was like fighting a war. Now I am addicted to washing, and every day when the time comes, I go to the bathroom by myself.

"Senior brother, sister-in-law, you have to remember one more thing. Cultivating self-control is not a matter of one sentence. You must be cruel and persistent." Xiang Nan smiled, "I know you two are daughter slaves, and you have always been very supportive. Doting Huanhuan's heart softens when she sees her daughter unhappy.

   But I advise you to stick to it. Otherwise, as long as you let go of your strength once, there will be a second, third, and fourth round, and all previous efforts will be wasted.

  Shun will give birth to immortals who rebel. To practice amazing skills, you must work hard. Learning has never been an easy task. The four of you and I have all come from school days. Whoever has never gotten up early and gone to bed late, and who has never forgotten to eat and sleep.

   It is precisely because of the hard work of those years that we can sit and eat in such a high-end restaurant now. Otherwise, we are afraid that we will not dare to enter the door. "

   "Yes." Nan Li and Xia Junshan both nodded.

  The two of them were able to be admitted to a prestigious university because of their hard work. So Xiang Nan's words are very suitable for them.

  Even Zhang Xueer felt that what Xiang Nan said made sense.

  Although she does not approve of baby chickens, she still agrees with cultivating children's self-control.

   After all, a person who can't even control himself will be able to be a major event in the future.

  …

   Seeing that Nan Li and Xia Junshan had listened, Xiang Nan couldn't help nodding with a smile.

  He knew that Xia Huanhuan's self-control was very poor.

  As long as no parents are watching, she will indulge herself. Read novels, read comics, and even break the eraser into pieces. Homework that can be done in half an hour can't be finished in three hours.

   This should also be blamed on Xia Junshan and Nan Li.

   always advocates happy education, and does not restrain her. The so-called saplings will not flow straight if they are not repaired, and people will not be repaired. Xia Huanhuan has been undisciplined since she was a child, so it is easy to develop bad study habits.

  From kindergarten to now, at least six years, it has already formed a habit. The country is easy to change, but the nature is hard to change. Once a habit is formed, it is not easy to change it.

  It's like once a person gets used to smoking, he feels that his mouth is empty if he doesn't hold one.

   What's more troublesome is that Xia Huanhuan's ability to resist stress is extremely fragile. She keeps crying at every turn, and even vomits when she gets agitated.

  So this made it difficult for Xia Junshan and Nan Li to restrain her cruelly.

   In this way, a difficult situation is formed.

  Bad habits have been formed. If you don’t care about them, your child’s academic performance will not improve, and parents will be anxious.

   If you control it, the child will not listen at all. If you manage it harder, the child will get sick.

   After tossing and tossing like this, the final result is that both sides suffer.

  Although a seemingly bright ending was arranged in the play, Nan Li is no longer a chicken baby, Huan Huan is relieved, and the family is happy again.

  But as Nan Li said, can you escape the junior high school entrance examination, the high school entrance examination, and the college entrance examination? At that time, the anxiety will still be anxious, and the pain will still be painful.

  If you are not willing to discipline your children, the society will help you make up lessons.

  Xiang Nan also came from a child, so he still doesn't understand this truth.

  …

  After chatting for a while, everyone left immediately.

   When Xia Junshan called the waiter to check out, he realized that Xiang Nan had already paid the bill.

   This made Xia Junshan and Nan Li very embarrassed.

   It was agreed to treat Xiang Nan and Zhang Xueer to dinner, but they settled the bill instead.

   "Junior brother, you..." Xia Junshan was a little embarrassed.

   "Brother, eating is for exchanging feelings, whoever spends money is not spending money." Xiang Nan said with a smile, "Don't bother me about it."

   "That's right, as long as everyone is happy." Zhang Xueer also smiled.

  Xia Junshan and Nan Li looked at each other, feeling very sorry.

  However, seeing that Xiang Nan and Zhang Xueer were so persistent, they could only smile and nod.

   "That's fine, this time you can invite me, next time I will definitely invite you." Xia Junshan thought for a while and said.

   "Okay, there is a chance." Xiang Nan nodded.

  …

   Afterwards, the four of them called surrogate drivers and left separately.

   "Zhong Yi, I think Huanhuan's parents are pretty good." On the way, Zhang Xueer said with a smile.

  Xia Junshan and Nan Li are well-educated, self-cultivated, and talkative. It is actually quite a pleasure to chat with them.

   "Both of them are good." Xiang Nan nodded, "Otherwise, Huanhuan's personality would not be so lively, cheerful, and enthusiastic. This is obviously a character that can only be developed in a happy family.

   On the contrary, look at Yan Ziyou. Compared with Huanhuan, he is much more dull. And, have you noticed, he likes to pick his fingers very much, and he often has cuts on his hands. These are all manifestations of excessive pressure and self-abuse. "

  Zhang Xueer was taken aback for a moment, and said in surprise, "Is it true?! I really didn't notice this."

"If you don't believe me, you can take a closer look when you turn around." Xiang Nan nodded, "In my opinion, it's not surprising. His mother is simply too weird. She uttered bad words before she knew the situation. Offended people, and Unable to bear the consequences, I quickly sent a bottle of red wine to admit my cowardice.

  From these two incidents, it can be seen that she is short-sighted, impulsive, irritable, and cruel. With a mother like her, even the best children can't learn. If you don't believe me, just watch it, Yan Ziyou's studies have regressed greatly, and it's only in the past half a year. "

   "No way?!" Zhang Xueer couldn't believe it.

"The last math test, I can already see that Yan Ziyou's learning ability is average." Xiang Nan explained, "He has been attending remedial classes since the first grade, and he has been involved in Mathematical Olympiad. It stands to reason that he is better than his classmates. .

  But the last test was just a little bit beyond the outline, and the questions were a little weird, so he couldn't do it. This shows that his Olympiad has been learned in vain, and he has not developed any mathematical thinking ability. It is futile to study any further. "

   Zhang Xueer nodded when she heard this.

  Yan Ziyou has been tutoring since the first grade, and it stands to reason that her learning progress is beyond that of her classmates. This has also allowed him to rank among the best in his grades over the years.

  In the last test, although the math questions were beyond the outline, but not too much, he should have learned it in the cram school. But she didn't answer it, which is enough to show that his mathematical foundation is not solid enough.

  It's like a bear breaking a stick, breaking one and throwing one away. Learned in the front, but forgotten later, such a child, the possibility of a decline in grades is indeed very high.

  (end of this chapter)