Chapter 1241 1243 [Frustration Education]

  Xiang Nan then called Xia Junshan and asked him out for a drink.

  At this time, Xia Junshan already knew about the conflict between his daughter and Mi Tao, and he didn't know what to do.

  After hearing Xiang Nan's invitation, he immediately agreed.

  The two immediately made an appointment to meet at a bar.

   "Junior Brother, Huanhuan and Mi Tao, what's going on?" Xia Junshan asked suspiciously.

  Xiang Nan immediately explained how Huanhuan isolated Mi Tao in a small circle and sent the "Letter to Parents" to deliberately not give Mi Tao.

  Xia Junshan was embarrassed when he heard this.

   "This... this... is what Huanhuan did?" He couldn't believe it.

  In his opinion, his daughter is as cute as an angel. But now the angel has turned into a demon, and it's simply too abominable to engage in a small circle of bullying classmates.

   "Brother, children are also very complicated." Xiang Nan nodded and said.

  In fact, compared to adults, children tend to behave more cruelly than adults due to lack of moral and social rules.

  For example, campus bullying, often forcing people to kneel, strip their clothes, and slap them. Such extreme violence is rare in society.

   "How could this happen? I can't believe it." Xia Junshan sighed.

  It was really unexpected for his daughter to become so bad.

"Brother, water has source and tree has roots. Huanhuan and Mi Tao were good friends before, but now the relationship has become so bad, there must be a reason." Xiang Nan said, "Could it be when you were teaching her?" , always comparing Mi Tao with her, that's why Huanhuan feels angry and hates Wu Wu Wu?"

  In the play, Huanhuan hates Mi Tao because of this reason.

  Xia Junshan was taken aback when he heard it, and remembered that when Nan Li was teaching Huanhuan's homework, she always used Mi Tao as an example to let her daughter learn from her.

  Perhaps this is what made her daughter feel resentful towards Mi Tao.

"Just be a role model, can't it be like this?" Xia Junshan said with a smile, "When we were in school, the teachers and parents used other people's children to motivate us. After we listened, we only had to learn from them. Son, I didn't say that I want to form a small circle to isolate others."

  Who didn't compare with other children when they were in school.

   "Brother, with all due respect, we can, but Huanhuan can't." Xiang Nan waved his hand and said, "You and your sister-in-law have been insisting on happy education these years, but you only care about making your children happy, but you forgot to teach them about setbacks.

  Life is often unsatisfactory, and setbacks are the main theme of life. But these years, Huanhuan has been too smooth. If you don't study hard, you can rank in the middle and upper reaches. The election of class cadres is always the deputy squad leader. I often participate in various literary competitions in the city, and I can easily win an award...

  Compared to other children, Huanhuan is really happy, but the more so, the harder it is for her to bear when she encounters setbacks. For example, in the first half of the year, when she lost the election for class president, she was lost for several days.

  So when we are compared with other people's children, we may be dissatisfied and arouse our competitive spirit. When Huanhuan is compared with other children, the reaction may be more intense, and what is aroused is not competitiveness, but jealousy and resentment. "

  Hearing Xiang Nan say this about his child, although Xia Junshan was a little unhappy, he had to admit that what he said made sense.

   These years, they have loved Huanhuan too much.

  Father, mother, grandpa, grandma, younger brother, school teacher, colleagues in the work unit... One counts as one, and they all praise the child for being smart, beautiful and cute, and spoil her like a little princess.

   It can be said that Huanhuan grew up in a honeypot for so many years. Because of this, her endurance is extremely fragile.

  Crying when you come last in the exam, crying when you fail to be the deputy class leader, crying when you fail to enter the competition class, crying when you don’t study hard and get scolded...it’s just a crying bag.

   "Then what should we do?" Xia Junshan hurriedly asked for advice.

   "First of all, of course, we must sincerely admit our mistakes and apologize." Xiang Nan said, "Secondly, we must pay attention to the child's setback education and improve her ability to resist pressure.

  Brother, Huanhuan is only in the fifth grade now, and there are at least eleven years before he graduates from university and grows up. During this period, she had to go through the two major life difficulties of the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination. If her ability to withstand stress is still as poor as it is now, I'm afraid it will be difficult for her to overcome these two difficulties. "

  The learning pressure in middle school is dozens or hundreds of times that of primary school. The number of courses to be studied has increased from three to nine. If the ability to resist pressure is not strong, junior high school will not be able to keep up.

  When Xiang Nan was in school, junior high school had the highest dropout rate.

  When I was in the first grade of junior high school, there were six classes in total, and each class had as many as sixty students. When I was in the third grade of junior high school, it had been reduced to four classes, and each class had only more than forty students, which was more than half.

  Xia Junshan nodded after listening.

  …

  At the same time, Zhang Xueer also drove to Mi Tao's house.

  I saw Mi Tao being scolded by her parents.

   "You can still be patient, your parents took you to the city with great difficulty. If you don't talk about studying hard, how can you still fight with Huanhuan?" Mi Tao's father scolded.

   "She bullied me first." Mi Tao said, "I just showed my attitude, otherwise everyone would bully me."

   "Then why doesn't she bully others, it's your fault." Mi Tao's father said.

   "It's not my fault for being bullied, it's her fault for her bullying me." Mi Tao said immediately after hearing this.

   "You are still stubborn, Mom and Dad save money for your study, you don't study hard, and even fight with your classmates, are you reasonable?" Mi Tao's father said angrily, "Can't you understand something?"

"Why do you always make me sensible? It's her fault for bullying me." Mi Tao cried, "She led her classmates to isolate me, took the lead in class and didn't observe discipline, and deliberately didn't send me homework... She is the one who did the wrong thing , why as long as I bear it?"

   "You still say, you still say..." Mi Tao's father raised his hand and said viciously.

  Seeing this, Zhang Xueer quickly knocked on the door.

   "Oh, it's Teacher Zhang~" Mi Tao's mother quickly pulled her husband's hand off when she saw this, and then walked over to open the door, "Hello, Teacher Zhang~"

   "Mr. Zhang, you're here~" Mi Tao's father said in embarrassment.

   "Yes, I'll come and see Mi Tao, and I'll tell you what happened this afternoon." Zhang Xueer nodded, and then told the ins and outs.

   "Hey, so it's just the kids who are being awkward. It's okay, it will be fine in a while." After hearing this, Mi Tao's parents didn't take it seriously.

   After all, in the countryside, it is common for children to fight.

"Father Mi Tao, this matter is more serious than you think. What Huanhuan has done to Mi Tao is already regarded as school violence. You can't take it lightly, let alone tolerate it." Zhang Xueer waved her hand and said, " There was nothing wrong with Mi Tao in this matter. The biggest mistake was that she should not push Xia Huanhuan. At that time, Mi Tao should have told the teacher what Huanhuan had done, and the teacher would help her.

  But she can stand up bravely and express her opinions clearly. This is something to be encouraged. You know, many children are afraid to speak up after being bullied, so that they get bullied more and more later. "

  A lot of campus violence is gradual, from verbal violence to physical violence, and even finally causing death, so we have to guard against it.

   "It was Teacher Zhong who encouraged me to stand up and show my attitude if I was bullied." Mi Tao nodded.

   "You did the right thing." Zhang Xueer nodded.

  (end of this chapter)