Chapter 2076 Love me, please don't belittle me (4)

   Memories flooded into Yin Yin's mind at this time, and she also learned the information of this world.

   In this world, the original owner has three children, the eldest daughter Xia Ji, the youngest daughter Xia Zhi, and the youngest son Xia.

   The two daughters were born by the original owner and the first husband. Now the eldest daughter, Xia Ji, is 23 years old. She has just graduated from university not long ago. She studied clinical medicine with excellent grades and even won a scholarship.

   The youngest daughter is seventeen years old. She has just finished her second year of high school and is about to enter her third year of high school. She is nervous about her studies. Now that she is over the summer vacation, she is still taking supplementary classes at school, and her grades are good.

  The first husband died unexpectedly not long after the birth of the youngest daughter Xia Zhi.

   At that time, the eldest daughter was only six years old.

   Concerned that the two children are still young, the original owner did not remarry immediately, but kept pulling the two daughters to grow up, and life was relatively difficult.

  The youngest son was born with the second husband. It was only when Xia Xia was one year old that the man proposed to divorce the original owner.

  The reason given by the man is that it is inconsistent with the original owner's three views.

  The original owner naturally disagreed, but the man made up his mind that he didn't even want his son, and was determined to divorce.

  The original owner didn't even understand what her husband meant by the three views disagreement. In her opinion, their lives were clearly living well.

  In the end, the two got divorced, and the son was given to the original owner in the summer. Now he is four years old and is in kindergarten.

   Speaking of the original owner, it is really hard to say.

  Yin Yin just wanted to say that the original owner's character and behavior are the norm for many parents in China.

   True and pathetic.

The original owner is a person with a strong desire to control, especially when dealing with three children. The word she believes in is: You were born to me, I can do whatever I want, I will take care of you, and I will see how your things are. Now, you were born to me, I am your mother, you have to listen, you have to do what I tell you to do, or you will be punished if you have no conscience.

   A suffocating control, in the name of love, to control the child, interfere with the child's choice, and deprive her of her rights.

  The original owner is still a person who likes to feel sorry for himself and kidnap children.

The words she often talked about were: I worked so hard to pull you up, but you treated me like this, I paid so much for you, do you still have a conscience; for you, I was worried and could not eat well If you can't sleep well, what do you want from me? Do you want me to die to be satisfied? Look, I have to work hard outside to make money every day, and when I come back, I have to sweep the floor, cook, and wash clothes. I can do it, I just say a few words to you, you still refute, I am not for you, you are still obedient...

   These words of self-pity and self-pity hide a deeper level of accusation and denial of the original owner towards the children, making the other party feel sorry for him and feel guilty. And belittle the child, let the child produce himself inferior to others, useless, not even worthy of living in this world.

   Letting children see the "love" they give for their children is actually a moral kidnapping.

   Let the child unknowingly generate negative energy, a sense of guilt and guilt, and make the child have to listen to her words. If you don't obey, you have committed a serious crime, and you are a person with serious sins, and you should repent for the rest of your life.

   Let the child feel that he exists, everything about him is wrong.

   makes the child more pessimistic, and over time, the whole person becomes depressed.

   And there are many such parents in China, so much that it is basically the norm.

   That's why Yin Yin said it was true and sad.

   And the reason why the second husband of the original owner divorced the original owner was also the original owner.

   He is a university teacher. He knows that the original owner's education method is problematic. He tried to communicate with the original owner and ask her to change it, but the original owner did not realize his mistake at all.

   This world is a bit similar to the previous two worlds, but not the same. Before the negative and for you (strong desire for control), this world is now an enhanced version of the combination of the two worlds. Negation becomes demeaning, and control is no longer just for your own good, but for your own good and making you feel guilty.

  

  

   (end of this chapter)