Chapter 286 Two more

   For such a consultant.

   What she needs to do is never defined for her.

   She only needs to give her an analysis, so that she can see the problems she found more clearly.

   Finally, tell her what to do.

   Mind manipulation can really destroy a person's will.

  The most painful moment for the person being manipulated is when you realize that you are out of reach from the best version of yourself you used to be, the real you.

  Liang Yiyi lost her self-confidence, self-esteem, assertiveness, courage, and happiness in this intimate relationship.

   She spent a long time just wanting her husband's approval.

   Until recently, she began to understand that it was an unattainable goal.

   This means she has been manipulated to the third stage.

  …

In the first stage of    being manipulated, Liang Yiyi hopes to get her husband's approval and let him confirm that she is a lovely, excellent and lovable person.

   But if it can't be achieved, she can accept it.

   When they disagree, she will start from her own position first. If he said something that didn't seem right, she would argue with him.

   In the event of conflict with each other, they can still maintain their own judgment and question them.

  The second stage—

  When Liang Yiyi and her husband had a conflict, although she would question them, she would habitually consider his views and opinions.

   She thinks his point of view is normal, so she desperately wants to get a chance to communicate, to state her point of view, to prove that she is lovely, excellent, right, etc.

   But at this time, she has lost her ability to judge, and can't see the big picture, but will be entangled in the details he accuses her of.

One of the most dangerous features of    Stage 3 is her increasing cognitive deficits.

   Feelings of frustration, hopelessness, and no fun seem especially normal.

It's Liang Yiyi's current state. She closed herself off, stopped contacting outsiders, she forgot what she used to be, she felt numb to life, and no matter what she did, she couldn't feel happy. I don't even think about it anymore, I no longer have expectations for the other party, and of course, I don't doubt his cognition——

   Without her daughter discovering her problem and trying to help her wake her up.

   She will completely fall into despair, without her husband continuing to control her, her own vitality will be quickly lost.

  Fortunately…

   She has a daughter and people who try to wake her up and help her get out.

   "Yes, I have realized that my relationship with my husband is problematic." Liang Yiyi said, "I have been thinking about whether to take action for the past few months."

  Ning Youguang smiled and she said, "Congratulations on your decision to stop playing the manipulation game with him!"

  Liang Yiyi's eyes were filled with gleams of light.

  Ning Youguang continued to ask, "Have you decided to change the rules of the game with your husband?"

   "Yes, I used to worry about getting divorced from my husband and being separated from him. I was afraid that I would have no home or family from now on, but Lele told me that I still have her and she can accompany me."

A smile appeared on Liang Yiyi's face, "Lele has grown up, she is smarter and braver than me, I am her mother, and she is so brave in helping me, if I continue to fall into the trap of having nothing to do with his father. In the entanglement of meaning, I really have no brains."

  ——“Not only do I have no brains, but I have no responsibilities and responsibilities. I don’t deserve to be a mother.” 1314

   pua is everywhere

   The little cuties who are afraid of pua and want to know how to resist pua:

   I recommend everyone to read "The Gaslighting Effect: How to Recognize and Get Rid of Others' Control of Your Life"

   This book will introduce in detail the means and types of manipulation, as well as the method of anti-manipulation, which is very practical~ This chapter contains the content of the reference book.

   Love you, and may all the angels live powerfully and upwardly.

  

  

   (end of this chapter)