Before reading this paper, Qu Yan had never thought that one day, knowledge would be used in this vicious way.

She looked cold and had to find a blanket to cover herself.

Immediately, she continued to watch.

In this paper by Vince Yu, she later discussed a lot of the application of PUA in life.

In fact, PUA is widely used in love and in the workplace, and even appears in daily life. Even if some people are not careful, they will become the manipulators in PUA.

For example, in the same incident, a child broke the eating bowl and the food was spilled on the floor.

Mental healthy parents may teach their children to be careful, don't make mistakes next time, and then clean up the ground and let the children continue to eat. They will discuss the matter, so the matter can be over.

However, parents who are mentally sub-healthy are more inclined to manipulate their children, so they may blame the children first.

"Why are you so careless? You can't do little things well. When other people's children are like you, they will help adults wash the dishes! And you are still ruining me!"

In the parents' accusations, the child's own self-confidence and self-esteem are suppressed, then he will fall into a trilogy of victims like "doubt, justification, and repression".

Such parents, instead of just discussing the matter, are just discussing people, because their ultimate goal is to manipulate the child rather than solve the matter itself.

In the end, the worst-case scenario is that children facing the second parental reaction may become puppets manipulated by their parents, deprived of their personal will by their parents, and allow their parents to arrange their own studies, their future university majors, and their own Marriage, from then on, is depressed for a lifetime, and cannot be rejoiced.

So, as a victim, how should we face this situation?

The answer is that the victim must remember:

Whether you are doing something right or wrong, you should not be treated in such an unkind manner, and you should not be manipulated by anyone.

Others may give you some suggestions to help you grow and improve, but the premise of these suggestions is that the purpose of others must be well-intentioned.

Later, the paper also discussed some PUA in real life. Qu Yan looked at it, and he became more and more relieved.

But at the same time she felt ironic.

She didn't expect that she was manipulated by Wen Siyu with some things, but in the end, she looked at her paper and started thinking about it.

But then she changed her mind again, but felt that Wen Siyu was brilliant. In fact, she herself is a person with strong self-esteem and self-confidence, and it is not easy to be hit. However, during the first few days of childbirth, she was in poor health and she was indeed right. The child's cry was disgusted, so he started talking.

In the subsequent operations, Wen Siyu did not interfere with her freedom too much, so the traces were not obvious at all.

In this way, she was not wronged.

Qu Yan was lying on the bed, and there was still a faint Yinger crying in her ears.

She couldn't sleep, and simply continued to turn on the computer.

What are you looking at?

She thought of the movie "Under the Gas Lamp" introduced at the beginning of the paper, and opened it.

Soon, Qu Yan saw a plot that made her feel empathetic:

In the movie, the manipulator hero Gerry solemnly gave the victim heroine Paula a brooch. Paula immediately wanted to wear it, but found that the pin was broken, so she could only watch Gerry put the brooch into her bag.

After they went out, when they came back, Gerry reached out again to ask Paula for the brooch. Paula rummaged through her bag, but couldn't find it.

At this time, Gerry began to blame Paula,

"Poor Paula, you are sick. You are always so careless and can't do anything well."

Seeing this, Qu Yan naturally understood where the pacifier disappeared on the countertop that day.

If it is really there, how could it not be found by myself.

After that, the movie continued to swallow. When Paula was most desperate and believed that she was sick, suddenly a detective came and found her.

As soon as he arrived in Paula's room, he discovered the fact that the gas lamp was flashing in the room.

Paula was very surprised, "You also saw it flashing? I always say that the lights are flashing, but they all say I was wrong!"

"No, it's flashy, you should believe in yourself." The detective said, his eyes were compassionate, and he looked a bit like Ling Sheng.

You should believe in yourself, the baby crying in your ear is from the voice recorder.

Just at this time, Ji Zhuoran came back.

He looked at Qu Yan still awake, somewhat surprised, "Not asleep yet?"

"Can't sleep, watch a movie for a while." Qu Yan said, closing the laptop, not wanting him to know what he was watching, "Why are you here so late?"

"After sending them back, I still can't worry about you, so I came here." He said, his face was still gentle.

But he still turned a deaf ear to the baby's crying in his ear.